Well any reason that will make you go into marriage and it won’t improve the other partner is a selfish reason and it won’t make the ma...
Well any reason that will make you go into marriage and it won’t improve the other partner is a selfish reason and it won’t make the marriage last.
We then ask the ladies this time, why did you get married, then then they say
Ah – well I got married to him because I’m in love with him
Then we ask HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE IN LOVE? It’s so amazing that they don’t even know what love is, and that is why the marital foundation of so many couples right now is faulty.
Every Saturday you see people rush to the alter just to get married while those that has been married for 3 – 5 years want to run out.
However, if people would never bothered about what other people will say, a lot of people would have run out of the marriage.
So many people are going through HELL, and they are asking themesleves is this what marriage is all about.
A lady once said to me, said if what what my parents are going through is what they call marriage then I don’t want to get married, which automatically means, something is wrong somewhere, or we have a faulty foundation.
So in this case, I think it’s better to start by getting it right, NOW!
Below are the factors affecting relationships or factors that will most likely affect your marriage:
1. The platinum rule:
This is one of the factors that so many married people know about, the rules states that “don’t people the way you don’t want to be treated”.
And this has divided human beings into 4 personality types, we have:
- The intimidating spouse:
- The creative spouse:
- The dependable spouse:
- The systematic spouse:
Often times you want people to act the way you act and that why you get into trouble with them, however, it has been often said that “we don’t see thing the way they are we see things the way we are”.
So it’s quite possible for people to look at the same thing and see different things, which most times create conflict in most marriages.
So you are looking at “a glass cup, that has water, and you are saying the cup is half filled” and spouse is like no oo “the glass cup is half empty”.
The two of you are saying the same thing but in a different way and of cause the different ways still means the same thing.
So the way the intimidating spouse see things is different from the way the creative spouse see things, as little as the glass of water description above sounds, it can actually create a lot of problem.
In part 3 we will take a look into the 4 personality types.
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